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LOA update….

Well, I just got an email from Lifeline.

Normal wait time for LOA is 60-90 days.

After 93 days, my dossier is still…….

In translation. ¬†ūüôĀ

This step normally takes 2-3 weeks.  We are 3 months in.

I’ve copied and pasted the remaining steps in the LOA process from a fellow adoptive mom on Facebook.

I didn’t have the heart to try and list them out.

Then you move onto translation and that process is supposed to take 2 to 3 weeks. I have no idea why but BLAS varies greatly in time to translate. Once your dossier is back from translation it goes to the “in process” man who receives your dossier from BLAS and then changes the computer system to “in process as of ___ date” and your agency can now see that in the computer. He then sends your file to the review room part of the LOA wait. This is where they review your file. It is supposed to only take 2 to 3 weeks but then again this time frame varies as well. Once they have reviewed your file and you are approved, it then moves to the LOA issue department. It usually takes 1 to 2 weeks to get through the issue department and then they mail them out and your agency receivs them.

I was told that dossiers that were submitted late December/early January are taking longer than normal.

Um, yeah, I realized that.  Sorry for the sarcasm.

So IF my dossier leaves translation on Monday (and I have NO idea when it will leave translation), it still could take up to 3 to 4 more weeks.

And that’s just to get my LOA!! ¬†Let’s not even mention the next steps we have to take before we pick Peanut up.

And yes, I know, it’s all in God’s timing.

 

Perspective…..o.k….i’m gonna get some….well, i’m gonna try….:)

You know when you are hurting, nothing else really matters around you.

I become a very selfish person when I’m hurt.

I’ll be the first to admit it.

I’m selfish.

There, I said it. ¬†Now, don’t go blowing up the comments on here saying “it’s about time she figured that out!!”

Do I want my LOA?  Um, yes.  That is the understatement of my life right now.

Is this wait extremely hard.  Um, again, yes.

Especially when you see families get theirs before you.

Again, I’ve already acknowledged, I’m selfish.

But when you get a phone call at 1:30 a.m. from a precious family member that is hurting beyond belief, you start to understand, “hey, maybe there are worse things out there than not getting my way on my timeline”.

My heart broke in pieces for this precious person. ¬†I’m crying as I type now.

I woke up this morning thinking, this wait, not so bad anymore, when put into perspective.

There are so much worse things out there than waiting.

Like getting a phone call when your on a mission trip to Peru telling you your 46 year old mother has unexpectedly passed away from a brain aneurysm.

That was devastating.

Still is devastating.  She would be my biggest supporter of this adoption.

She was the absolute best Grandma.

I miss her everyday.

My mom holding Taylor after he was born.

So, perspective, I need to get some.

I love that I have a daughter in China.

I love that I will be able to go get her when the time is right.

I love that there is hope at the end of this story.

And, maybe I should be enjoying this “calm before the storm”!! ¬†– Um, credit for that term goes out to my Cuz Marjorie Harris!!

I haven’t had to miss a full nights sleep in like 10 years now!! ¬†ūüôā

Thank you to my friends and family for your prayers and support.

They are definitely felt!!

Day 92 of our wait for LOA………………………

 

Oh. My. Gosh!!

This is how I feel....

I have nothing to say….very sad…..

And I realize that it is all in God’s timing.

Day 91 of our wait for LOA……………………..:(

Tomb Sweeping holiday….really

Qingming Festival of 2012 falls on April 4 in China.

Qingming Festival is a time of many different activities, among which the main ones are tomb sweeping, taking a spring outing, and flying kites. Some other lost customs like wearing willow branches on the head and riding on swings have added infinite joy in past days. The festival is a combination of sadness and happiness.

It also means the CCCWA is closed!!  Yes, closed.

Our agency does not check on LOA’s until you are 90 days in.

Well, guess what day it is for us??

That means that although we might have gotten an update today,  we probably will not.

So needless to say, probably no updates till next week.

I am inching closer and closer to the dreaded Century Club. ¬†ūüôĀ

No need to write this but for continuity sake, I will…….

Day 90 of our wait for LOA………………:(

I <3 my Secret Pal!!

I’m in an adoption group on Facebook.

We all have very similar time-lines in this adoption process.

These “friends” are a support and encouragement to me.

I’ve never met any of them face to face, but I feel like I’ve known some of them for years!

There is no judgement in this group.

If you’re mad, post it.

If your happy, post it.

Got a question, ask it.

Again, no judgement.  Just support.

I also have a secret pal in this group.  He/She is fabulous.

This is what I received in the mail on Saturday.

Cutest bathing suit ever!!

Thank you Secret Pal!  I definitely needed this pick me up!

Day 89 of our wait for LOA…………………..:(